i ache all over today but it is not a surprise. Yesterday i was permitted to attend Mistress and that is why i am aching, especially over my backside.

On arrival i was permitted to prostrate myself and to kiss Her feet and then to rise. A large supply of wood for the fire had just been delivered so i was allowed to change into my uniform and then set to bringing it in and stacking it in the cupboard beside the fire. Mistress went out and left me to my task. It was hard work but Mistress must have available dry wood for her fire.

On her return i was allowed a cup of coffee and used as her footstool whilst She drank Her coffee then She wanted to go out and have me in the car boot. Soon i was packed away in the boot, able to see and not in manacles but totally secure all the same. Mistress drove down to the car wash where She asked that the boot not be opened when the men were cleaning the car inside and out but whilst they were doing it i lay there totally silent knowing they might open the lid at any time. After what seemed to be a long time i felt someone getting into the car and mistress asked if i was OK.

Back at the house it was time for me to receive a long flogging and caning so i was put in the manacles and the heavy hood and bent over the stool for the flogging to begin. A couple of months ago i had failed Mistress and been sentenced to a total of 600 strokes of the cane. Up to now i had only received 150 of them (see http://alifeinthedayofaslave.com/judged-punished/).

Over the next couple of hours Mistress remedied this, the full 450 strokes of the cane along with so many strokes of Her hand, Her paddles, and Her whips on all parts of my body. There was torment also to my nipples with Her cruel nails twisting, squeezing them and pulling them out. It was totally overwhelming and She seemed to be enjoying herself so much.

Natural Rattan Cane [VF287]

By the time She had finished with me and finally removed my hood all i could say was “Wow”. It had been the most wonderful whipping and the caning was hard so that my whole backside felt swollen and bruised and was bright red. Such is Mistress’s skill that there are few marks to feel this morning but it still looks red and swollen and it feels as if it has been beaten very badly. That is the price of failing Mistress, but i do have to admit i do like the flogging and the nipple twisting when Mistress is so close to me and i can sense her enjoyment. The caning was punishment for a good reason but the rest was pure pleasure.

If Mistress had told me in advance that i would be receiving the full 450 strokes i would not have been able to cope, but done with Her great skill and spread out it had proved possible and been the greatest number of strokes i have ever received. And this time i had only been hooded with my jaw bound up and not gagged so Mistress got to hear all my cries and moans to spur Her on.

Finally i was allowed to prostrate myself again and dismissed. No surprise that after the hard work with the wood, the confinement in the car boot and the long, long period of flogging and caning i ache all over this morning.

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Many men visit professional dominants and go from one to another. However they may say that they are the slave of one, they are cheating in seeing or communicating with other Mistresses.

Seeing how you relate to different Mistresses may be reasonable when a man is starting on the submissive life but if he wants to be a slave then he needs to be loyal to his Mistress.

Strap-On Vibrating Harness [EC796]

A slave should be ordered not to communicate with or see other Mistresses even if his Mistress is away for a period. The only exception to this should be if his Mistress orders him to see someone She knows. Now he is obeying Her.

Classic Locking Ball Gag [DU610]

Once i became a slave to my Mistress and She accepted me as Her slave She required me to stop all contact with any other Mistress and banned me from communicating with them.

i was allowed to access sites but only to help Her produce Her own website and get ideas for it. More recently i have been allowed to look at sites for cities we would be visiting so that She could contact those with a similar lifestyle.

Loyalty to one’s Mistress means being loyal to Her, waiting for her if She is busy and accepting that She is in control of the slave.  If anyone criticises Mistress the slave is there to defend Her. If She has tasks which are difficult for the slave to perform but She needs it the loyal slave will do them.

If She has problems he must be loyal. If She has difficulties he must be loyal. If there is any conflict he must be loyal to his Mistress.  For me being a slave has changed into being property owned by my Mistress.  She owns me and i MUST be loyal always even to the end of time.

There is no time limit to the loyalty a slave should have for his Mistress. It is for life.

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Men masturbate because  they want to and enjoy it. They look at pornography pictures on the internet or play scenarios in their mind and touch themselves until they have an orgasm. Often this occurs at least once a day even in men who are in a relationship and having lots of sex.

But that is not how it should be and for slaves that is not how it is going to be. A slave hands themselves over to his Mistress to control them and this means that She will control his orgasms and when he is allowed to masturbate.

He may agree to limit masturbation or always to ask Mistress’s permission before he does so and some slaves are able to do this on their honour.

But many slaves cannot control themselves and need stronger means employed. This is where the use of a chastity device comes in.  Mistress and slave agree that he is to go into chastity and his penis and balls are placed in a chastity device. This prevents him from touching himself and acts to prevent an erection as well. Most slaves locked away in a chastity device can no longer have an orgasm, so masturbation becomes a thing of the past. Mistress is the key holder and She decides when the device can come off. She controls both the man and his orgasms.

The CB6000S Chastity Device [AA982]

Many Mistresses consider masturbation by their slave as a crime and punish severely any slave who does it. If the slave has agreed not to masturbate as part of his slave or chastity contract he needs to have help to do so. Mistress holds the key to his release and that is how it should be.

When younger i masturbated a lot always to fantasies of being dominated, cast into bondage, or abused by a powerful Mistress. Now i live the life of a slave and any masturbation is a crime. When i failed Mistress and had an orgasm which was not sanctioned She punished me; a fine, flogging, 6/12 of total chastity. Now the judgement of the court is that i should stay in chastity with no release for masturbation still and this will go on for another year at least. Mistress will then decide again.

For me any release or orgasm is at the decision of Mistress which is why i wrote this section on a flight to America with my parts locked in a steel chastity device told to apply it once through security, and also to throw away the key. Mistress had the only keys and i had none. Masturbation is now a thing of the past changed by Mistress and her training methods.

There are also more secure systems made of surgical grade steel, or those which incorporate a belt type design.

The Stainless Steel Chastity Cock Cuff [SL103]

The Bird Cage Chastity Device [AB292]

The Enforcer Steel Chastity Belt-Medium [DD725-M]

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Mistress has the most beautiful and lovely nails on both Her feet and Her hands. The feet look so wonderful with their painted nails as i kneel or lie prostrate at Her feet. i am permitted to kiss them and have been informed that i will be trained to give Mistress a pedicure so Her nails are perfect at all times. Such beautiful toe nails are worthy of my foot worship as also from all of her slaves.

But Mistress has nails on her hands that are even more spectacular. She has them prepared and coloured by Her manicurist and She also has the edges of Her nails sharpened when She knows i am coming to attend Her.

So once She has me kneeling at Her feet She can rake Her nails up and down my back. She can trace out patterns on the skin and scratch me with Her name to show that i am Hers. She can press the sharp nails into the skin and make me squirm and shake with the pain. The nails can also be pressed into use to torment me anywhere else as well.  Two sharp nails pressed together with a fold of skin between them or pushed into the balls can make me squeal.

But the most fun comes when She uses Her nails on my nipples. The edge of the nail presses in. The tips of the nails bite down hard. The nails scratch where the nipple is already most tender. Such pain and pleasure are rare to find. i gaze into Her eyes as i see Her implacable gaze. She knows where She is going to use the nails next but i have no idea what will happen. It is all so very good and shows how She controls all of me and can do what She likes with my body which is Hers to use.

Now She is concerned that my nails are not Ok. If i am ever allowed to give Her a foot massage my nails must be short, well-trimmed and clean.  My toe nails are not as good, however so they need trimming and tidying. i have been taken for the first time for a pedicure so the nails have been cleaned polished and finally covered with clear varnish. For the first time i have been given a pedicure, and i had to sit there in my ankle chains with bare feet whilst Mistress discussed with the therapist how She wanted my nails treated. The feet are on my body but they belong to Mistress.

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In the relationship of a Mistress and her slave power shifts to the Mistress. The slave voluntarily consents to give power and the Mistress agrees to take it.

It is a big step for the slave to hand over power.  The first time i did it i was very apprehensive yet now it seems so normal and reasonable. It seems right to be ordered to put on my chastity and throw away the key leaving Mistress in control of the only remaining key which can release me. i have to trust Mistress that She will use her power wisely and not allow me to get harmed. i have to know and trust her. So accepting a slave state and the loss of liberty that goes with it is a big step but it is one that every one who considers being a slave should take.  Further steps will take you into deeper and deeper slavery and submission and the apprehension does not get less though a slave knows from experience that it is all safe and sane.

But it goes both ways. Mistress needs to be prepared to accept the power, to use it and to use the power She has been freely given. There is no use for the slave thinking he has given up power if the Mistress does not want to exercise it. It is a big responsibility for Mistress to take this power. She becomes responsible for seeing the slave comes to no harm. She becomes responsible for his diet, his exercise, his chastity, and the way he lives.

Many men end up in slave relationships outside their normal home lives because of their desire to submit and hand over power. Many women do not want this sort of power and so say they want nothing of it so the potential slave then seeks the expression of his submissive self and hands over power elsewhere.

But women are superior and when a man to enter a female led relationship he is handing over power to his orgasms, his money, his life and the future directions of travel in his life.

In sessions a submissive may hand over power for a short period to his Mistress, but for a slave there is a degree of permanent handing over of power which is an awesome thing. For property, the Mistress has assumed ownership with all the power over the owned slave plus the responsibility that entails.

Yet freely handing over power to another is an arousing thing to do. A slave who has been accepted by his Mistress has entered a new life in which his arousal leads to better service for her.

But of course once power is handed over it comes at a price. Mistress has assumed power and will use it. She decides the tasks the slave will carry out. She decides what will happen in a session and what She will use. She sets the standards for any task She gives him and he MUST obey.

This exchange of power means that She will decide his fate if he fails in anything. She has the power of the judge, the jury and the executioner. She decides the punishments and they are real.

It is certainly so for me. i desire to serve and be the best slave i can but Mistress decides what She wants me to do, and what She wants to do with me. She decides when She will beat me, tease me, tickle me and what services She requires of me.

If and when i fail She judges me and makes sure the judgement is carried out to her satisfaction. i failed in cleaning her house in January and She sent me to be caned. Just and fair.

But being a slave and handing over power brings freedom. i feel more free than at any time in my life. i have the freedom to serve and to obey and to submit. i have sought it. i have desired it, and now i have it as the slave and property of my Mistress.

She has the power. She should have the power; i love that it is so.

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Rubber and latex come from the rubber tree though they can also be made artificially. Sheets of thin stretchy rubber are termed latex and are good for clothing, bondage bags and hoods and can look spectacular as part of latex costumes. They are impervious to sweat so overheating is a danger, and a slave covered in latex may boil or freeze depending on the environment. There needs to be a good sized air hole for breathing for you cannot breathe through a latex sheet.

Latex Vac Bed [ST985]

But the costumes and clothing can be tight and revealing and very sexy so many Mistresses like to wear latex.

Latex Mini Skirt- Black [DE640-Black]

Latex Thigh-High Stockings [DE106]

Mistresses may also like to place their slaves in latex to take away their identity or hood them so they lose all their personality and become a simple latex covered slave. Thicker sheets of rubber are not stretchy but hard and shiny.

Latex Mask w/ Perforated Eyes and Mouth [OR102]

Rubber Slave Hood [LE420]

Latex Catsuit [MI425]

They can bend and flex and make a good substance for making whips and paddles. A heavy rubber paddle split into thongs makes a loud slap as it hits the skin and can be very painful. Often rubber is also easy to clean so if the Mistress breaks the skin and causes bleeding the rubber paddle or whip can be easily cleaned and disinfected.

Rubber and other synthetics are used for the soles of shoes and these can also be used to strike a slave. He can be imprinted with the mark of the shoe, just like the tread of a tire.

The Jack Boot Paddle [AC536]

Leather and rubber are so often used in fetish wear, and items used by the Mistress for herself or to use on her slaves. Some Mistresses like one, others the other, and some both in different situations. A slave may desire to be beaten by a rubber clad Dominant, but it should depend on what She wants not him. The slave may have found that to him rubber is a fetish and he cannot get aroused except when he can feel and smell rubber or even taste it on a gag.  Mistress will decide whether this is something She likes and use it or not as She decides. his desires are secondary but many Mistresses will try to accommodate strong preferences in a slave, for it helps them gain the mastery over them and show their power in one area then spread to all the rest. Hard and heavy rubber can also be used to make collars, corsets, and cuffs which can be secured around the slave to restrain him and place him in bondage. It is a very versatile product often used on slaves and by Mistresses.

Classic Locking Ball Gag [DU610]

My Mistress loves Her rubber whip and i like being placed in the inflatable hood or bag. i used to be collared with a rubber collar but now have been placed in one of steel lined with neoprene instead.

Rubber Tail Flogger [AC997]

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Mistress has need for fresh candles, groceries and all sorts of things. A slave can be expected to attend with all of these for his Mistress or sent out, often in some form of bondage under his clothes to get things for Mistress. he must get exactly what She wants, the correct brand, the correct size; anything else is failure and will be punished.

If the slave is attending Mistress he is there to serve. he is there to attend Her when shopping, opening doors, stand quietly when She is
looking at things, pay for what Mistress wants, and carry Her bags. he may be controlled with the shock collar and be in bondage under his
clothes.

Remote Shock Puppy Trainer [SO110]

Between shops he may have his lead grasped firmly by Mistress to keep him under control all the time.

Leather Leash and Collar Kit

Many Mistresses enjoy shopping and having a slave to act as their driver, porter, and door opener is good. he is the person to carry an umbrella to make sure She is dry even if he is getting wet. he may be expected to wear her uniform when he does this. he can be left outside a shop or in a corner for hours whilst She decides what to buy, if anything. he is there to serve Her needs totally.

On occasions Mistress may want to spend a whole day shopping going from shop to shop. Slaves should remember that his place is to serve no matter how long this may be and keep quiet never complaining. Anything less is cause for severe punishment even in public where he may deserve a slap or a severe shock to bring him to his knees.

Mistress and slave may want new toys or bondage gear to try. he should fund it but She will buy online and he will not know what She
has new to use to torment or punish him or hold him in bondage until it arrives.

Mistress takes shopping seriously and so also must Her slave in serving Her.

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There is a wide range of temperaments among those who are into dominance and submission. Some are totally dominant, some switch from one to the other and many like me are totally submissive.

But even here some are more submissive than others. Those attending a Professional Dominant for the occasional session may only wish to submit for short periods. Others seek the life of slavery or become the property of their Mistress.  his submission is a given and the slave needs now to train himself and to be trained by his Mistress  to allow him to be a slave all the time.

Mistress needs a slave who will always obey her and always remember his place in Her service. The slave may have a submissive temperament but he will still need training so he never forgets this if this is to be 24/7.

Regular training helps him develop and his underlying temperament to show.

But even with submissives there are varieties of response to pain.  Some Mistresses really like to give pain to their slaves and show a sadistic streak. They really enjoy inflicting the pain.

Some slaves are happy to be flogged and beaten and sense that Mistress likes it and enjoys it and so they learn to like it too. Others see their ability to withstand pain as important to them in some “macho” kind of way. But there are those slaves who really like the pain. They enjoy the beating and the pain that Mistress delivers. Some will even disobey mistress for the opportunity to be punished. Most slaves accept punishment as what they must suffer if they fail but do their best not to fail as they do not like to be punished.

But there are those who truly enjoy the pain and consider themselves “masochists” and see that the pain arouses them and gives them more enjoyment than anything else.

Most of us slaves are a mixture of dominant and submissive but tending to the submissive which is why we become slaves in the first case. At the same time some see themselves as service orientated and seek to serve Mistress and others and others are more of a “pain slut”. But whatever the temperament it is Mistress who is in control and a slave will get what She wants him to have.

The Bend Over Silicone Dildo Harness Kit

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In medieval times princes and the aristocracy flogged their children when they were disobedient. Except this was not always the case as the child might have someone allocated to take “their” whipping as their whipping boy.

If Mistress likes flogging or whipping a slave and finds it convenient and relaxing after a day of stress then the slave may be volunteered to be Her whipping slave. It is not that he wants it. It is not that he has done anything wrong to be punished. It is just that Mistress needs someone to use to get irritation out of her system.

Premium Leather Whip [JF206]

So a whipping slave fulfills these needs. He is there to take a whipping when She wants to do it. his service to Mistress is to take the beating and not complain. She works out her irritation and tensions and he is helping Her. This can be an ideal arrangement. But it does not stop her flogging him hard for anything he does wrong as well or just because She feels like it.

Flicker Whip [ST855]

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Nearly 3,000 years ago the blind poet, Homer, sang about a sorceress, Circe, who lived on an island in the Mediterranean and who could transform men into piglets with a wave of Her staff.

When i first met Mistress, nearly 8 years ago, Her look transformed me into one who wanted to be Her slave and for Her to do to me whatever She wanted. This enchantment has only grown deeper over the years, and Her power to transform me into whatever She decides gets ever greater ass the years have passed.

She has changed my hairstyle, got me to lose weight and exercise, put me in a uniform of her devising and sent me out dressed in women’s clothes, or in a thong, tights and a corset hidden under my “normal” clothing.

Now Halloween is coming and She has decided to transform me into a creature that is not even human. i am to be changed into a thing that is half human and half pumpkin.

my hands will disappear and be replaced with small pumpkins instead. The wrists will be in manacles chained to my waist for no one wants a creature with heavy pumpkins instead of hands on the loose.

my head will disappear and there will be nothing but a pumpkin instead, growing out of my shoulders. No face, no vision, no speech, and the only sign that this is a living creature will be a small hole which will permit breathing.

This is the creature that Mistress proposes to create this Halloween and to take out in public on a lead, to show that Her power and sorcery can make this change in any man just with the flick of Her whip.

What will happen and will She ever change me back so i have a head and can see again? i will be totally in HER power as the sorceress shows the world what She can do to a male human so easily.

Circe changed the men back into humans eventually; will Mistress show the same mercy?

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E is for Exercise
F is for Forced Feminization
H is for Hair
T is for Tights
U is for Uniform

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i have been able to get away from home to spend a whole 24 hours with Mistress.

She has plans to have me go out in public transformed into a pumpkin creature so i had provided the large pumpkin for my head and others much smaller form my hands.

On arrival i took my rightful place prostrate at Mistress’s feet until She let me rise then She checked that the pumpkins fit and photographed them for the blog. Everything is now ready for Halloween.

Next i was required to strip off my clothes and tights and to change the chastity for the Kali’s teeth bracelet. A few moments of Mistress twisting and crushing my nipples which were swollen from having worn the nipple clamps all day and my body tried to get an erection. The pain was terrible as the sharp spikes were driven into my flesh and after a few minutes i had to beg for mercy. This time Mistress was merciful so i was allowed out and put back into the chastity instead.

Kali’s Teeth Chastity Device (4 Rows) [AA332]

Now it was time for me to receive a beating but before that Mistress made use of the shock collar which was suspended just behind my balls between my legs. Every time Mistress presses the controller i got a sharp shock or series of shocks just where everything is tender. i was required to kneel over the whipping bench and i could hardly keep still.

Remote Shock Puppy Trainer [SO110]

i was hooded in the heavy hood but also wearing a plastic gum shield normally used to stop people snoring. It is totally effective as a gag; worn out with the lips closed no one can see that i am gagged and held in place with a heavy hood and chin strap i lose all speech. i cannot speak or beg for mercy only scream quietly.

Mistress enjoyed Herself with a long session of flogging, paddling and caning and when She finished She allowed me to sit on a chair. But the top of the chair had been replaced with a board covered in upturned metal beer bottle tops so this was painful on a backside already swollen and red. Mistress got a good photograph of the patter of the marks it made on my hind.

Now it was time for bed. my bed was to be a “Darlex” sleep sack on the floor locked in place and with my hands locked into leather mittens inside so I had no hands to fiddle with anything. my last sight was of Mistress’s face as She applied the hood and i was plunged into total darkness, helpless, locked in a tight bag, and i stayed there until morning when i was released to wash, get Mistress coffee and start the cleaning.

Spandex Bondage Bodybag

Spandex Bondage Bodybag

The night before Halloween was over; but Halloween had arrived and the pumpkin creature was what i would become before long.

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The first night after i left Mistress i had been ordered to spend the night in the spikes and in the bondage bag and hood. It was very difficult waking in the night with an erection and the spikes pressing into my cock but i managed it.

Kali’s Teeth Chastity Device (4 Rows) [AA332]

For my second night away the rules were to be the same. i was to spend the night in the spikes and bondage bag, hooded and use the electric butt plug for 45 minutes before settling down.

Spandex Bondage Bodybag

Spandex Bondage Bodybag

ElectroSEX Start-Up Kit

Nimbus XL Silicone Electro Plug [AC867]

i used the electrics and settled down. i was very tired so went off to sleep rapidly. But an hour or so later i was awake with pain from my cock as the spikes dug into me; a few minutes of chanting the multiplication tables and thinking of anything other than sex and it settled so i could sleep again.

A couple of hours later it was not nearly so good. i woke from a dream that my Mistress, naked, had been flogging me and caning me with an erection and with the spikes causing me terrible pain.

Natural Rattan Cane [VF287]

The chanting and anything else i could do failed and it was nearly half an hour before the pain began to subside. i was shattered and could not cope with the device any longer.

i climbed out of the bag, took off the hood and took off the spikes, seeing all the little red marks it had made on my cock. i replaced it with my chastity which i would be wearing all day and climbed back into bed to collapse asleep until the alarm went off.

This is terrible as i have failed to carry out Mistress’s direct order. i can only hope that She is merciful to Her slave. i informed Her of my failure last night and now must wait to hear my fate.

i have been allowed to live during the day most of the time in my chastity for the past couple of months but i fear i may find myself back in the spikes all day every day for a period to remind me that Mistress is in control. Had it been during the day i would have sent a text to ask Mistress’s permission to come out of the spikes but it was the middle of the night and i must not disturb HER sleep.

So i wait for Mistress to decide what happens to me. She always decides. He is in control of me as i am Her slave and property.

That is just how it ought to be for all of us; Women should rule and men should serve.

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Communication between a slave and his Mistress is an essential part of their relationship. In the “normal” world communication is free to occur at any time and both people in a relationship have access to each other by phone, text and email all the time.

It is different for a slave. Mistress may require regular reports from the slave, and he may send emails or texts frequently, but this does not mean he will get a response.

If he wishes to speak to his Mistress She may be busy with other slaves or with the rest of Her life or find the time inconvenient. The slave should text first to ask if he may be allowed to speak to Mistress; unless She replies Yes he should not disturb Her further.

If She wants to email or text at any time then She will do so. She may have things She wants him to get or wish to give him orders. This can happen at any time of the day or night. The slave must learn to check for texts and emails several times a day.

She decides whether he is allowed to speak to Her. That is Her power over him working in practice.

Of course if there is a specific problem or the slave cannot arrive to attend Mistress at the time She has set then he must inform Her at once.

But the slave must expect to be left with silence from Mistress from time to time and must learn to wait for HER. The slave must always respond as soon as he receives a call or text unless this is impossible but Mistress will decide whether She will respond to any specific message and when She will respond.

In most Mistress / slave relationships the level of communication between Mistress and slave is excellent but it is the Mistress who has the power and the slave must not disturb Her unless there is an emergency. She will communicate with him when it suits Her.

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In my first few years as the slave of my Mistress November was the time for my new yearly slave contract.

In the proposed contract there would always be mention of Her rules on chastity. i used to be allowed to initiate sex with my wife from time to time on holiday, but now only my wife can initiate sex and this is the order of Mistress.

The slave always owes Mistress for Her time and the efforts She makes to develop him and train him. She incurs expenses and these should always be paid for by the slave.

The slave is dependent upon his Mistress as a slave and She makes rules to govern his life. Part of his response to this is to provide tribute for his Mistress

If he is able to attend Her then part of this tribute comes in the form of work that She wants done. This may be production of reports She can publish or simple housework. There are no tasks a slave cannot be required to perform and Mistress may want a slave to do Her housework, bring in Her wood and coal for the fire and clean Her house. She may allow him to carry out Her washing or to hang up Her clothes.

Whether these tasks are pleasurable to the slave does not matter; they are all part of his submission and obedience to his Mistress

Mistress is also spending time talking to Her slave, and interacting with him and that is time She cannot use for other things including earning money. For this reason slaves provide a tribute in money for their Mistress.

Once the main ideas of the slave contract were produced Mistress would always allow time for discussion and negotiation. She has always been reasonable and never expected funds in excess of what i could reasonably afford.

Finally after time for discussion and any changes were made it was time for Mistress and myself to sign the contract. It may not be a legally binding contract but for me it has always had the power of Mistress’s law as far as i am concerned. After signature comes the hard part as i try to live according to the contract for the next 12 months.

Things are different now for Mistress declared that i was no longer a slave but simply HER property a few years ago. But there is always a time in the year when i am required to set down my understanding of HER rules for me and then discussion to make sure both of us understand the same things. It is no longer a slave contract as a property has no rights at all but it makes sure we both know where we are going, and gives a benchmark for Mistress to use in deciding if i have failed in any area and merit punishment.

Of course She can punish just because She wants to; She has that power over me now.

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When i started my journey into slavery and to becoming the property of Mistress i had no idea of where i was going. i started wanting to submit to a powerful Mistress and when i attended Professional Mistresses i was always asked what i wanted. i knew i liked to be put in bondage and to be dominated by a powerful Woman but i really was not sure beyond that. The sessions were always short and often unsatisfactory as the Mistress could not guess what would work if i did not know already.

This phase of my life tended to be concentrated most on what i wanted rather than Mistress and it was more about me than Her.

When i started my life as a slave i realised that the imperative had changed. It was not what i wanted but what Mistress wanted to do. We might have discussed potential activities, such as caging, suspension, whipping or some form of bondage but it was Mistress who would decide what to do and when. This occurred at a time when it was possible to have much longer sessions and i would arrive and prepare myself to await whatever Mistress decided to do to me.

As my slavery deepened so did the influence of Mistress on my life. She decided i should go into chastity and provided the device. She put me in a collar and ankle chains to wear under my clothes. She decided i should wear a thong or tights under my outdoor clothes at work and the diet i should have for lunch. She decided on my diet and exercise regime. Some of these things i might have wished to do but it was mistress who decided them and my fate.

In sessions She decided the activity, sometimes with me knowing in advance and sometimes with no warning. i knew in advance i would be transported in a car boot in chains, but not when or where. i knew that i was due a severe flogging to punish me for failures but never when it would occur.

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One of the great things i have learned as a slave is that Mistress really is in control.

She sets the tasks for me, whether writing or practical. She makes the rules.

So today i was sent a text indicating some of the tasks She wanted done. On arrival i was ordered to change into my uniform then to bring in a large bag of wood and stack it in the cupboard next to the fire after laying and lighting the fire. Then i was sent to the kitchen to wash up and put away and then to sort and tidy all of Mistress’s candles ready for use.

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Edible Heart Candle – Strawberry [AB541-Straw]

By now it was lunchtime so Mistress send me out to the supermarket to get Her lunch and kindly allowed me some of the same. Afterwards She wanted Her thigh boots cleaned and polished so i spent a long time with the polish and a rag then using my tongue to clean further then a final wipe with the rag before Mistress inspected my work and dismissed me with rubbish filling my car boot to take to the waste disposal.

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That is what Mistress wanted today but She also spent time chatting and checking i was OK. We also discussed what She had done to me last week and ideas for the future. But She will decide what happens and what She wants done. i am HER slave and this means i must submit to Her and obey Her commands.

It really is all about HER!

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Yesterday whilst i was on my way driving to Mistress her orders were sent to me by text. i was to arrive at the house, prepare and light the fire, and get ready in the black body stocking and heavy manacles ready to be taken out in the car boot.

i arrived and prepared and lit the fire, did some washing up and putting away and got myself ready with hoods ready to be applied and a lead attached to my collar. Then i waited. After an hour i received another text to say that Mistress was on her way and would arrive soon. i waited so i was ready on my knees to prostrate myself before her on Her arrival. This waiting is good because it reminds me who is the boss and allows me to sink totally into my role as slave. i know that mistress will come but SHE will choose when She will arrive as well as everything else that is my fate.

On arrival Mistress started on my nipples and informed me that She had just had Her nails treated and also sharpened so they would be more effective. She was so right as they were very painful when applied to my already swollen nipples, swollen from wearing the nipple clamps for 4 hours.

Adjustable C-Clamps [ST179]

Then i was placed in the car boot in the heavy hood, manacles and chained up as well to stay there whilst She took the car to be cleaned inside and out, except the boot and drove back. By now it was raining so i was left in the boot. Otherwise Mistress would have got wet getting me out.

Mistress opened the boot lid and dragged me out, guiding me with the lead into the house and down over the whipping stool. Over the next hour or more i was soundly whipped and flogged and caned.

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But the highlight for both Mistress and myself was when i was forced to kneel up and She flogged and slapped my nipples in between using Her newly sharpened nails on my nipples. All this time i was isolated within the heavy leather hood and could only moan and scream with the pain.

Leather Deprivation Hood

At the same time She connected the electric box to my butt plug and gave me a couple of hours of maximum strength shocks to keep me alert and with my legs and backside jerking in time to the shocks whilst She flogged me.

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The rest of my time was spent in minor housework and also cleaning Her boots. As Mistress could not find the polish at first this meant cleaning them with my tongue and saliva then polishing them to a high shine. Once the polish had been found i cleaned them again with the polish and a rag then finished them off with my tongue again and the rag to make them shine.

All too soon it was time to leave but only after i had demonstrated that i had eaten all my container of cat-food for my lunch and been given a cup of coffee

Last night after returning home my wife was giving a dinner party so Mistress had me remain in my tights, thong, butt plug and chastity until all the guests had gone and my wife had gone to bed leaving me to finish the washing up.

Today i am writing this report on my knees as the backside is still very sore.

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Mistress is going to be away in the USA for a couple of weeks from this weekend so i will not be able to attend Her. But She has already thought out my orders for when She is away.

i am to wear the thong and tights and my ankle chains every day, and instead of the chastity i am back in the spiked “Kali’s Teeth” every day until i am allowed to see her again. This makes thinking of Mistress very painful and writing reports for Her very difficult as the thought or writing excite me and the spikes then dig into my cock with enormous force.

Kali’s Teeth Chastity Device (4 Rows) [AA332]

i am to restrict my food and eat cat-food for lunch each day i am not at home. And I must be able to demonstrate I have lost weight. Each evening I have 50 sit ups and 20 press ups to perform before bed.

Next Wednesday i have an all day sales meeting and must wear my butt plug all day.

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The following Wednesday i am to go to the house and carry out cleaning, laying a new fire and emptying the garbage bins and vacuuming and deliver new flowers so everything is ready for Mistress on Her return.

Then i will be able to speak to Her again and receive more orders unless She thinks of anything i must do whilst she is away and sends the orders by text or email. All orders from Mistress must be obeyed and there is no alternative. So even when Mistress is away She still controls me and everything i do and wear even from the other side of the world.

Mistress rules! i am Her slave to submit and obey. She owns me and i am HER property!

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Mistress is in the USA for a couple of weeks and this has set me thinking of the ways in which She already controls me from afar.

She has me controlled all the time wearing my chastity device all day every day possible and since i last attended Her it has now been the Kali’s teeth spiked bracelet instead. i am banned from masturbation whether in or out of the chastity device and this is very difficult but i have been in this state for over three years now. In an ideal world i would be kept locked in the chastity all the time except when Mistress allows release (see C is for Chastity Device). This would be OK if i was allowed to attend Mistress for then She could keep the only keys. But how would it work if i was remote from Her.

The CB6000S Chastity Device [AA982]

There are now internet-controlled key-lock safes where the control of the lock is via internet and this would allow Mistress to keep a key in a safe opened only when She decided, with the key secured by a wire to the back of the safe so it could not be taken off and copied. If the opening was only done when Mistress could see me on Skype then She could ensure that the chastity was locked back on and the key back in the safe before She changes the access code. This is now not just fantasy but it can really happen as the technology exists. For example, see the DreamLover ChronoVault or this video about it.

Mistress gives me orders to wear panties, tights, and collar and She knows i will obey. But if away She could check with me on Skype to see i am properly dressed for Her. This only applies to when She can see me but what of other times. It is now possible to enable someone else to use a webcam left on 24 hours a day to see what is happening and to allow for greater surveillance and two-way communication.  But easier is to require a slave to provide a photograph within a very short time period of receiving an order on text or email which will prove he is properly dressed.

Remote punishment and torment has been possible watched by Mistress on Skype. On one occasion She was able to control me from Her iPad whilst on the beach in South Africa and me in the UK. This was with me wearing a “DreamLover 2000” system which allowed Her to shock me or to keep me on all fours with its “canine “option. Unfortunately the system is complex, the batteries have limited life, and it has not always worked. What works more easily is for me to be expected to be in front of the computer on Skype naked and to squeeze, pull and twist my nipples to order or to use a heavy ruler on my backside which can then be inspected to make sure the marks are there.

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Remote Shock Puppy Trainer [SO110]

Another new option to punish and control slaves is to use a writing program which requires them to write out lines. This checks that the task has been performed and provides a report which can be sent to the Mistress. The program “fond of writing” allows tasks to be set remotely as well and the program can be made more difficult by making the text invisible, increasing repetitions for error and distracting with random pop ups as well as requiring that the text is entered backwards.

This allows a Mistress to impose a writing punishment on her slave and She defines when it occurs and for how long.

Fond of Writing

The new generation of remote controlled vibrators allows two mobile phones to be connected so that the vibrator is controlled by the remote phone from anywhere in the world. This is possible with the new We Vibe 4 Plus. It does require a BlueTooth connection continually by one phone and an internet connection. Setup can be tricky according to published accounts. However, once it works, it can be used anally to stimulate the prostate.

But the important thing about remote control is that it occurs when there is already control. Mistress owns me and i am Her slave and She controls so many things in my life whether i am with her or not. She has the psychological power over me that allows this and ensures that if there are failures i will report them. So She wants me to have cat food for lunch and lose weight; She orders it and checks my weight when i attend Her. She decides what i wear under my outdoor clothes; She decides and i submit and obey Her.

She can send orders at any time to phone or computer and i must check several times a day for any messages. She requires regular reports. All of those reports require that i am always using “I” as “i”, and that She deserves Capitals. This shows Her control over me all the time.

Mistress controls me day and night from wherever She is in the world but new technologies and programs are making it easier for Mistresses to control and monitor their slaves all the time.

Soon the era of total remote control will become a reality, and for some slaves it has already arrived.

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“Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains”, according to the enlightenment writer and thinker Jean Jacque Rousseau. But for me the freedom comes from the chains and not from being without them.

i sometimes think that my life has become strange since i became the slave and property of Mistress. To most outside the BDSM community the idea that a man would willingly desire to be chained up by his Mistress and to lose his freedom to move, or to see or hear makes no sense at all. But for me it makes total sense. In my work and family life i appear “normal” to the outside world though they have no idea that i may be wearing a chastity device around my cock and balls or required to wear panties and tights under my trousers. There are no obvious signs of the collar locked around my neck apart from a slight in my shirt.

But i feel most truly free when Mistress has me in Her chains or other bondage. It is the fact that i have voluntarily given up my freedom to become HER slave and that She has enslaved me that all makes sense. i am so proud to be allowed to wear HER chains as a physical reminder of Her control over me. Whether She has me in leather locked cuffs padlocked in place, or hooded in a heavy leather hood so i cannot see or even speak or hear all that well or She has put me in the heavy steel manacles and leg irons i feel a sense of total freedom.

The chains and the submission make me truly free to be myself and to express the submissive parts of my personality. The submission to what Mistress wants me to do, chained up or not, gives me a role to fulfill. The obedience She expects from me and the risk of the most severe punishment if fail Her all make me feel alive.

For me and a host of others we were born apparently free but we find our true freedom when we are in chains and the slave of a powerful and demanding Mistress. Otherwise we are only half alive.

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In Turkish prisons a favorite punishment was to use the bastinado. The subject was secured with his feet in the air and beaten on the soles of the feet with rods or even iron bars.  This was very painful and the process caused bruising, damage to the feet and even broken bones so that he was left unable to walk or even crippled for life.

Mistress is never so hard when She hits the feet of a slave. She will use a paddle, a slipper or a cane and it is very painful but there is no long term damage. Still a slave may only be able to hobble around like an old man afterwards for a while.

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If Mistress has been wearing high heels or boots and has tender swollen feet She may want to use a slave as a footstool to lift up her legs or require a foot massage. But She might want the slave to feel a little of Her discomfort so She could make him wear shoes or boots that are too tight to make his feet sore or subject him to the bastinado treatment.

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